I Hate My Husband – Overcome The Feeling And Repair Your Marriage
Are you having a lot of negative feelings, dislike and resentment towards your husband now that you are actually feeling and saying that “I hate my husband” ? Hate is really a strong and hurtful word to be used in a marriage but I do in fact understand you feelings and emotions you are going through that made you to develop feelings of hate on your husband. So here lets getting into all the reasons that trigger you to say these alarming words, I hate my husband.
There are in fact lots of ways you can FIX YOUR HUSBAND AND ALSO YOURSELF to make your relationship and marriage happy for you and your husband. The emotions involved in every marriage are different as the husband and the wife are two unique individuals. But the fundamental need for having mutual love is the same across all marriage and the desire and the want to be happy in them.
Have you tried to get to the bottom of your emotions and feelings of hate and tried to understand and comprehend what made you develop a strong dislike and hate for your husband. This is a very critical exercise we need to do because very often we get confused with our emotions and point them towards the person directly rather than the issue on that person that is really bothering us. And when we end up directing all our emotions to the person and not on the issue, we end up feeling, do I hate my husband.
As matured adults we all do know this; and that it happens with couples in relationships, but we might not have really realized that in fact we are doing the same in our marriage as we are under a lot of hurts and painful emotions. So take a step back and RE-ANALYZE THE THINGS AND ISSUES in your relationship and with your husband.
Lot of times wives start to dislike and hate their husbands when their expectations of what a marriage is supposed to be is not what really is. This happens in a lot of marriage as we all have expectations getting into a marriage and we are in fact right to have them. But what we miss is that we fail to add some dose of reality and hardships into it.
We should come out of the misconception we all have about an “IDEAL” marriage. To me an ideal marriage is
- 1) Having unconditional love for each other
- 2) Accepting the fact that we both are different in our own ways
- 3) Understanding that Hardships and issues cannot be avoided. It should only make the love stronger.
The problem we have is we leave out all the negatives that could come and have an unrealistic image of it. We just have in mind the happy parts and fail to realistically understand that.
Any happy relationship is a constant effort that both the husband and the wife needs to put it. All marriages evolve as months and years go by. It’s not a constant or a stagnant thing, but a every changing process.
When we have feelings of hate and dislike towards our husband, we think that 90% of the problems and issues are on our husband’s side. That could be very much true. But remember that your words, actions and reactions could also be the reasons to some part of HIS problems.
And a very important truth in a marriage is, the change that you can bring about on yourself is contagious. It surely has the ability to influence and create positive impact on your husband.
Also lot of times the disappointments and the failed expectations on our husband leads us to dislike and hate towards them. We need to be very careful here NOT TO ALLOW OUR DISAPPOINTMENTS TO BECOME HATE.
And most of the time the disappointment might not be about the husband per se, because he could be behaving the same throughout the time you know him, it is only the marriage has disappointed you as it did not meet your expectations.
So now you either you have to change or bring down your expectation to a realistic level and also try changing the part of the marriage that you have control over which is basically YOU. Doing this in your marriage and relationship can surely bring down the hate you have for your husband and the change you do will have a positive impact on him. So, seeing from a larger perspective you are indeed standing to gain from your change, and overcoming the reasons to the issues that made you say, I hate my husband would be a lot easier.
All that I am trying to bring here is just see your marriage and your husband from a relaxed and loving perspective that is more REALISTIC. I also totally agree that there are lot of things that needs to be changed on your husband’s side. The point here is not be inactive and dormant on your efforts and ending up on the wrong side of the statistics, but to actually take efforts to transform and repair your marriage. So please make use of all the information and resources available here.
More often than not we might not really be sure as to where to start and how to start. I have seen the success on a lot of wives who have used techniques and advice on how to save marriage and do away with the resentment and the hate they have for each other. Hope that would be all that you need.
There is a lot less advice and really useful information out there for dealing with emotions and situations where you see yourself hating your husband. I assure you that you will find a lot of very useful and usable information here.
Also keep in mind that to successfully deal with the pain and the emotion of saying , “I hate my husband” , apart from some change from your husband, taking most of the effort by yourself you can change the hate and the resentment you have for your husband. At times he might not really be directly involved in the process, the SMALL CHANGE ON YOUR SIDE CAN TRIGGER A BIG CHANGE ON HIS SIDE. Most of things to start with you can really do it alone, find one of the very successful and proven course that will help you on this process and will help you regain the happiness in your marriage also save it from going any worse. I am sure you would no longer have the thoughts and the feeling to say , I hate my husband.
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