I Hate My Husband – Fix Your Thoughts & Issues And Love Him
Are these “I hate my husband” thoughts and feelings coming into your mind more often in the last few days, weeks or even months?. Once in a while having these kinds of feelings on our husbands are in fact usual in marriages these days because of all the stress and the challenges marriage and relationship brings between the spouses these days, but when these “I hate my husband” feelings become a constant and frequently occurring thought then then there in indeed SERIOUS PROBLEMS IN YOUR MARRIAGE and in your relationship with your husband. .
It’s really an uncomfortable, bad and also stressful to have that kind of a feeling on your husband. There could be a lot of reasons for this. Your hubby might be acting strange and difficult these days that is bringing in feelings of hate and dislike for him. You could be going through a lot of different emotions and feelings for which he is not receptive enough which could trigger feelings of dislike and aversion for him. Or things are not the same in your marriage as it used to be, and you are venting out your frustration and stress on husband as hate and aversion.
In fact there could be a lot of different things which makes us to feel and think “I hate my husband”. .
There are also some wives who are respectful and also love their husbands and inside their heart they just hate them for something or the other . I am really happy for you that you have come her to find the reasons for that and are TRYING TO FIND A SOLUTION to the issues you have with your husband, and to fix things that are not good in your marriage. Trying to find information and advice that will make things better puts you in a better spot as you have taken the first step to fix your relationship with your husband..
# So now comes the big question, HOW TO STOP THINKING , “I hate my husband” :
How to I fix the things that is causing me to feel this way about my husband?
The first and the foremost thing for you is to decide to keep the LOVE intact for him in spite of all his faults and wrong doings. Keep in mind that to love your spouse is in fact really a choice that you make and should not be based on how you feel and how things are going in your marriage. To do away with all the negative feelings you have for your husband, it’s very much important that you start to love him again.
The love I am referring to here is the “TRUE LOVE” and not a love based on what he does and does not for you. To have true love, you first need to be kind, patient and even tolerant at times. Keep in mind that you need to love him true to your heart, and not just because your husband is being and behaving in a way that you wish him to be. So make up your mind to love him “unconditionally” . It’s really not right to relate the love we have for him to his behavior and actions, though we all end up doing JUST that. .
The love I am referring to here should not allow you to get even or dislike your husband for the way he is now or for the things you dislike in him. The first decision or the choice to make here is to make up your mind and heart to love your husband and not to hate him, and gradually sooner than later you will no longer be thinking “I hate my husband” provided by take efforts to fix the other issues and problems you both have in your relationship.
You are here trying to understand why you hate your husband and looking for ways to fix not only your feelings for your husband but also to IDENTIFY THINGS that are causing you to have these kinds of feelings and to fix all issues related to your husband and your marriage.
A lot of wives who say they hate their husband really don’t hate them. It’s just the feeling of dislike towards their husbands because of some of their actions, words and attitude. I am not aware of the things that your husband does that are invoking those hateful feelings that you have. Just try replacing “I hate my husband” with the words “I hate my husband BECAUSE HE DOES THIS” or “I hate my husband BECAUSE HE IS THIS WAY”. Doing this will give you the reasons that is behind the hate you have for him. This will also make you realize that you in fact don’t hate your husband but you only hate your husband for what he is doing and not doing. Once this issue is fixed I am sure you would again start feeling the love you have for him. .
Start working on your relationship; understand that you will also notice some issues on your side when you do a SELF- ANALYSIS on how you are to your husband. This could be far less compared to what issues you see on your husband, but start working on yourself, sooner you will surely see a change in them as well. Also it is really important to have a deep one on one conversation with your husband and to get to know his side of the story. This could surely give you more insight on how you are in the relationship..
I am sure there are a lot of areas in your marriage and relationship that needs work and mainly because they were either ignored or overlooked you have starting building resentment and hate towards your husband. Also answer yourself to this question,
“Will I still hate my husband if he changes 3 or even 2 things about himself that drives me crazy?”
I AM SURE NOT.
You would still not be thinking that “I hate my husband”. So please start working on your marriage and your relationship with your husband, and stop thinking that you hate your husband. .
I would advise you to have all the hope and confidence that regardless of how bad you think your marriage and relationship is now, it can surely be turned around into a happy and a healthy marriage. Please don’t give up yet. There are these proven STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE to stop thinking “I hate my husband” and to save and transform your marriage in to how you really want it to be. Please check them out and save your marriage and fix the hate and the aversion you have on your husband. .
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